<article>
<div class="each-segment">
    <a id="segment-501726" name="segment-501726" class="segment-anchor"></a></p>
<div class="banner-wrap d-lg-block d-none">
</div>
<div class="segment-head">
<h2></h2>
</div>
<div class="segment-body">
<div class="text">
<div class="">
<p>
</p>
<p><i>Follow us on <a target="_blank" rel="nofollow noopener" href="https://www.instagram.com/saysdotcom/">Instagram</a>, <a target="_blank" rel="nofollow noopener" href="https://www.tiktok.com/@saysdotcom">TikTok</a>, and <a target="_blank" rel="nofollow noopener" href="https://www.whatsapp.com/channel/0029VZzynzi6RGJG0QbRfy3O">WhatsApp</a>&nbsp;for the latest stories and breaking news.<br /></i></p>
</p>
</p>
<p><i><b>Note:</b>&nbsp;Submissions have been edited for clarity. Names have been changed to protect identities.</i></p>
</p>
</p>
</p>
</p>
</p>
</p>
</p>
</p>
</p>
</p>
</div>
</div>
<div class="each-segment">
    <a id="segment-501731" name="segment-501731" class="segment-anchor"></a></p>
<div class="banner-wrap d-lg-block d-none">
</div>
<div class="segment-head">
<h2>1. &#8220;More <em>atas</em> venues get more money&#8221;</h2>
</div>
<div class="segment-body">
<div class="text">
<div class="">
<p>
</p>
</p>
<p>&#8220;It depends on the location of the wedding and how close I am to the couple. More <i>atas</i> venues get more money, and I also give more if the couple are people I&#8217;m personally close to. But anything more than RM300 feels a bit too much lah.&#8221;</p>
<p><i>— Tom, 32</i></p>
</p>
</p>
</p>
</div>
</div>
<div class="each-segment">
    <a id="segment-501764" name="segment-501764" class="segment-anchor"></a></p>
<div class="banner-wrap d-lg-block d-none">
</div>
<div class="segment-head">
<h2>2. &#8220;A lavish celebration at a high-end hotel may warrant a larger gift than a cosy backyard ceremony&#8221;</h2>
</div>
<div class="segment-body">
<div class="text">
<div class="">
<p>&#8220;RM150 &#8211; RM400. I think it really depends and there&#8217;s usually a few things I&#8217;d consider: <br />&nbsp;<br />&#8220;A lavish celebration at a high-end hotel may warrant a larger gift than a cosy backyard ceremony. Similarly, a sit-down dinner often carries a higher cost compared to a buffet-style reception.</p>
<p>&#8220;For relatives or close friends, I&#8217;d be alright with giving around RM300 &#8211; RM400. It&#8217;s a bonus if I&#8217;m close to BOTH the bride and groom, then I wouldn&#8217;t mind giving even RM500.&#8221;</p>
<p><i>— Ashley, 29</i></p>
</div>
</div>
<div class="image">
<div class="">
<div class="single-image list-unstyled">
<div class="single-image-wrap">
                    <a href="https://images.says.com/uploads/story_source/source_image/1218313/1b49.jpg" target="" class="imgwrap colorbox-image cboxElement" title="Image for illustration purposes only." rel="segment-810 noopener"><br />
                      <img decoding="async" class="source-img-1218313" alt="Image for illustration purposes only." src="https://images.says.com/uploads/story_source/source_image/1218313/1b49.jpg"> </a>
                </div>
<p class="img-caption">Image for illustration purposes only.</p>
<p>                <small class="img-credit">Image via <a target="_blank" href="https://unsplash.com/photos/dish-on-white-ceramic-plate-N_Y88TWmGwA" rel="noopener">Jay Wennington/Unsplash</a></small>
            </div>
</p></div>
</p></div>
<div class="each-segment">
    <a id="segment-501732" name="segment-501732" class="segment-anchor"></a></p>
<div class="banner-wrap d-lg-block d-none">
</div>
<div class="segment-head">
<h2>3. &#8220;As long as it&#8217;s within my budget&#8221;</h2>
</div>
<div class="segment-body">
<div class="text">
<div class="">
<p>&#8220;I give between RM150 to RM200. Couples shouldn&#8217;t expect money and more so if they chose really expensive options that they themselves can&#8217;t afford because they assume people will pay for it. It&#8217;s your wedding, not ours.&#8221; </p>
<p><i>— Dory, 38</i></p>
</div>
</div>
<div class="each-segment">
    <a id="segment-501742" name="segment-501742" class="segment-anchor"></a></p>
<div class="banner-wrap d-lg-block d-none">
</div>
<div class="segment-head">
<h2>4. &#8220;For Chinese weddings, I typically offer RM500 or more, adjusting the amount based on my relationship with the bride or groom&#8221;</h2>
</div>
<div class="segment-body">
<div class="text">
<div class="">
<p>
</p>
<p>&#8220;However, it&#8217;s been some time since I&#8217;ve attended Malay or Indian weddings, so I&#8217;m unsure of the customary amount. I would aim to give at least RM200 as a token of appreciation.</p>
</p>
</p>
</p>
</p>
<p>&#8220;Chinese weddings often entail significant expenses, and it has become customary for guests to contribute towards covering the wedding costs. From my understanding, Malays approach this differently, with the bride and groom prioritising hospitality and not expecting guests to cover the entirety of the meal expenses.&#8221;</p>
<p><i>— Adrian Lai, 35</i></p>
</p>
</p>
</p>
</p>
</p>
</p>
</p>
</div>
</div>
<div class="image">
<div class="">
<div class="single-image list-unstyled">
<div class="single-image-wrap">
                    <a href="https://images.says.com/uploads/story_source/source_image/1218309/4917.jpg" target="" class="imgwrap colorbox-image cboxElement" title="Image for illustration purposes only." rel="segment-810 noopener"><br />
                      <img decoding="async" class="source-img-1218309" alt="Image for illustration purposes only." src="https://images.says.com/uploads/story_source/source_image/1218309/4917.jpg"> </a>
                </div>
<p class="img-caption">Image for illustration purposes only.</p>
<p>                <small class="img-credit">Image via <a target="_blank" href="https://unsplash.com/photos/person-in-red-and-brown-floral-long-sleeve-shirt-holding-white-ceramic-mug-mlmI5ADgmco" rel="noopener">Arisa Chattasa/Unsplash</a></small>
            </div>
</p></div>
</p></div>
<div class="each-segment">
    <a id="segment-501749" name="segment-501749" class="segment-anchor"></a></p>
<div class="banner-wrap d-lg-block d-none">
</div>
<div class="segment-head">
<h2>5. &#8220;The final amount depends on whose wedding I&#8217;ll be attending and the scale of the celebration&#8221;</h2>
</div>
<div class="segment-body">
<div class="text">
<div class="">
<p>
</p>
</p>
<p>&#8220;I usually give between RM150 and RM200. If it&#8217;s just an acquaintance or a distant relative getting married at a four-star hotel, I&#8217;ll probably just give RM150. If they&#8217;re getting married at a super fancy place, probably RM200-ish. If it&#8217;s a close friend or relative, I&#8217;ll give around RM200 to RM300!&#8221;</p>
<p><i>— Timothy, 26</i></p>
</p>
</p>
</p>
</div>
</div>
<div class="each-segment">
    <a id="segment-501730" name="segment-501730" class="segment-anchor"></a></p>
<div class="banner-wrap d-lg-block d-none">
</div>
<div class="segment-head">
<h2>6. &#8220;I&#8217;d give between RM100 for acquaintances and RM250 for close friends&#8221;</h2>
</div>
<div class="segment-body">
<div class="text">
<div class="">
<p>&#8220;I would be compelled to give more to the couple if I were closer to them, but if not, I think the basic RM100 would have to suffice.﻿&#8221;</p>
<p><i>— Jane, 37</i></p>
</div>
</div>
<div class="each-segment">
    <a id="segment-501752" name="segment-501752" class="segment-anchor"></a></p>
<div class="banner-wrap d-lg-block d-none">
</div>
<div class="segment-head">
<h2>7. &#8220;If it&#8217;s one of my best friends, I&#8217;ll definitely give higher&#8221;</h2>
</div>
<div class="segment-body">
<div class="text">
<div class="">
<p>
</p>
</p>
<p>&#8220;RM100 &#8211; RM200. It depends on how close I am to the person getting married. If it&#8217;s one of my best friends, I&#8217;ll definitely give higher, because I just feel grateful to be part of their wedding. &lt;3&#8221;</p>
<p><i>— Pam, 30</i></p>
</p>
</p>
</p>
</div>
</div>
<div class="image">
<div class="">
<div class="single-image list-unstyled">
<div class="single-image-wrap">
                    <a href="https://images.says.com/uploads/story_source/source_image/1218310/8c5f.jpg" target="" class="imgwrap colorbox-image cboxElement" title="Image for illustration purposes only." rel="segment-810 noopener"><br />
                      <img decoding="async" class="source-img-1218310" alt="Image for illustration purposes only." src="https://images.says.com/uploads/story_source/source_image/1218310/8c5f.jpg"> </a>
                </div>
<p class="img-caption">Image for illustration purposes only.</p>
<p>                <small class="img-credit">Image via <a target="_blank" href="https://unsplash.com/photos/clear-wine-glass-lot-on-table-O38Id_cyV4M" rel="noopener">Photos by Lanty/Unsplash</a></small>
            </div>
</p></div>
</p></div>
<div class="each-segment">
    <a id="segment-501753" name="segment-501753" class="segment-anchor"></a></p>
<div class="banner-wrap d-lg-block d-none">
</div>
<div class="segment-head">
<h2>8. &#8220;RM50 &#8211; RM300&#8221;</h2>
</div>
<div class="segment-body">
<div class="text">
<div class="">
<p>
</p>
</p>
<p>&#8220;Depends on the wedding venue. If <i>atas,</i> give more or if close friends give more lo.&#8221;</p>
<p><i>— Anonymous, 29</i></p>
</p>
</p>
</p>
</div>
</div>
<div class="each-segment">
    <a id="segment-501809" name="segment-501809" class="segment-anchor"></a></p>
<div class="banner-wrap d-lg-block d-none">
</div>
<div class="segment-head">
<h2>9. &#8220;Monetary gifts are, of course, always welcome. But if you truly want your guests to be there on your special day, then you shouldn&#8217;t be expecting anything but their presence.&#8221;</h2>
</div>
<div class="segment-body">
<div class="text">
<div class="">
<p>&#8220;At a certain age, you start to get plenty of wedding invites, so I give within my means between RM100 and RM250, depending on the venue, food, and my relationship with the couple. </p>
<p>&#8220;If I can&#8217;t afford to attend a wedding and I feel that the couple is expecting a certain amount from their guests, I may <a target="_blank" rel="nofollow noopener" href="https://says.com/my/lifestyle/5-weddings-you-dont-actually-have-to-attend">turn down the invitation</a>. </p>
<p>&#8220;I think the point of a wedding is to celebrate your marriage with your loved ones and it isn&#8217;t a time to be expecting money. Monetary gifts are, of course, always welcome. But if you truly want your guests to be there on your special day, then you shouldn&#8217;t be expecting anything but their presence. If they <i>do</i> offer a monetary gift, it&#8217;s obviously helpful. </p>
<p>&#8220;At the end of the day, you choose who you want to celebrate with. Friendship shouldn&#8217;t be based on how much money someone gives to you.&#8221; </p>
<p><i>— Jess, 30</i></p>
</div>
</div>
<div class="each-segment">
    <a id="segment-501783" name="segment-501783" class="segment-anchor"></a></p>
<div class="banner-wrap d-lg-block d-none">
</div>
<div class="segment-head">
<h2>Is it cheapskate to give gifts instead of cash? We find out:</h2>
</div>
<div class="segment-body">
<div class="related-source source-related">
<div>
<div class="related-thumb" style="padding-bottom: 10px">
<div class="aspect-ratio-says" style="background-image: url(&quot;https://images.says.com/uploads/story/cover_image/33130/a7c1.jpg&quot;);"><a href="https://says.com/my/lifestyle/awkward-questions-you-might-have-been-embarrassed-to-ask-about-giving-cash-as-wedding-gifts" class="ga-curator-related">&nbsp;</a></div>
</div>
<div class="related-content">
<h6><a href="https://says.com/my/lifestyle/awkward-questions-you-might-have-been-embarrassed-to-ask-about-giving-cash-as-wedding-gifts" class="ga-curator-related">4 Burning Questions Everyone Has About Giving Ang Pows At Weddings</a></h6>
<p>“How much am I actually supposed to give?”</p>
</div>
<div class="related-content"><span class="meta-domain pull-left"><img decoding="async" src="https://says.com/favicon-16x16.png"></span><span class="meta-domain pull-right">Read the full story<i class="icon-angle-right"></i></span></div>
</div>
</div>
<div class="each-segment">
    <a id="segment-501821" name="segment-501821" class="segment-anchor"></a></p>
<div class="banner-wrap d-lg-block d-none">
</div>
<div class="segment-head">
<h2>Someone previously said that the minimum amount to give is RM300:</h2>
</div>
<div class="segment-body">
<div class="related-source source-related">
<div>
<div class="related-thumb" style="padding-bottom: 10px">
<div class="aspect-ratio-says" style="background-image: url(&quot;https://images.says.com/uploads/story/cover_image/55699/e133.jpg&quot;);"><a href="https://says.com/my/fun/netizen-says-dont-go-to-weddings-if-you-cant-pack-a-rm300-ang-pow" class="ga-curator-related">&nbsp;</a></div>
</div>
<div class="related-content">
<h6><a href="https://says.com/my/fun/netizen-says-dont-go-to-weddings-if-you-cant-pack-a-rm300-ang-pow" class="ga-curator-related">&#8220;Don&#8217;t Go To Weddings If You Can&#8217;t Pack A RM300 Ang Pow&#8221; – Netizen&#8217;s PSA Backfires</a></h6>
<p>He lamented that many guests only packed RM150 and RM180 ang pows.</p>
</div>
<div class="related-content"><span class="meta-domain pull-left"><img decoding="async" src="https://says.com/favicon-16x16.png"></span><span class="meta-domain pull-right">Read the full story<i class="icon-angle-right"></i></span></div>
</div>
</div>
<div class="each-segment">
    <a id="segment-501785" name="segment-501785" class="segment-anchor"></a></p>
<div class="banner-wrap d-lg-block d-none">
</div>
<div class="segment-head">
<h2>Wedding may cost a bomb, but they don&#8217;t have to! Here are some things married couples shared they could have avoided:</h2>
</div>
<div class="segment-body">
<div class="related-source source-related">
<div>
<div class="related-thumb" style="padding-bottom: 10px">
<div class="aspect-ratio-says" style="background-image: url(&quot;https://images.says.com/uploads/story/cover_image/64533/e54e.png&quot;);"><a href="https://says.com/my/lifestyle/married-malaysians-share-the-things-they-wish-they-hadn-t-spent-on-for-their-weddings" class="ga-curator-related">&nbsp;</a></div>
</div>
<div class="related-content">
<h6><a href="https://says.com/my/lifestyle/married-malaysians-share-the-things-they-wish-they-hadn-t-spent-on-for-their-weddings" class="ga-curator-related">Married Malaysians Share The Things They Wish They Hadn&#8217;t Spent On For Their Weddings</a></h6>
<p>Maybe these will make you think twice for yours.</p>
</div>
<div class="related-content"><span class="meta-domain pull-left"><img decoding="async" src="https://says.com/favicon-16x16.png"></span><span class="meta-domain pull-right">Read the full story<i class="icon-angle-right"></i></span></div>
</div>
</div>
<div class="related-source source-related">
<div>
<div class="related-thumb" style="padding-bottom: 10px">
<div class="aspect-ratio-says" style="background-image: url(&quot;https://images.says.com/uploads/story/cover_image/37427/5424.jpg&quot;);"><a href="https://says.com/my/lifestyle/things-married-people-wish-they-knew-before-they-said-i-do" class="ga-curator-related">&nbsp;</a></div>
</div>
<div class="related-content">
<h6><a href="https://says.com/my/lifestyle/things-married-people-wish-they-knew-before-they-said-i-do" class="ga-curator-related">10 Things Married People Wish They Knew Before They Said &#8220;I Do&#8221;</a></h6>
<p>No ragrets, but if you&#8217;re single, faster take note!</p>
</div>
<div class="related-content"><span class="meta-domain pull-left"><img decoding="async" src="https://says.com/favicon-16x16.png"></span><span class="meta-domain pull-right">Read the full story<i class="icon-angle-right"></i></span></div>
</div>
</div>
</div>
</div>
</article>


"Couples Shouldn't Expect Money" — Malaysians Share How Much Ang Pow They Give At Weddings

“Couples Shouldn’t Expect Money” — Malaysians Share How Much Ang Pow They Give At Weddings